Journal Therapy Series by My Sister Is Me Too (MSiM2)

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A Zine Series on ADHD Weaponized in the Workplace

There’s a special kind of betrayal that happens when a manager lies.
Not a misunderstanding.
Not a miscommunication.
A lie — intentional, crafted, and delivered with confidence.

And for neurodivergent women, especially those with ADHD, these lies often become the foundation of a false narrative that follows us from meeting rooms to HR offices.

This isn’t just about a manager being dishonest.
It’s about power, control, and the weaponization of ADHD traits to justify their behavior.

The Lie Always Starts the Same Way

• It usually begins with something small:
• A tone they didn’t like.
• A question they didn’t expect.
• A boundary they didn’t want you to have.

Then suddenly, the story shifts.
Your clarity becomes “aggression.”
Your directness becomes “unprofessional.”
Your need for structure becomes “resistance.”
Your ADHD traits — the same ones that make you exceptional — become evidence in a case they’re building against you.

And when the truth doesn’t support their agenda, they simply…lie.

The Manager Who Rewrites Reality

Some managers don’t manage.
They curate narratives.
They manipulate timelines, omit context, and twist interactions until the story reflects their insecurity, not your behavior.

They say you “refused to collaborate” when you asked for clarity.
They say you “didn’t follow instructions” when they never gave any.
They say you “made others uncomfortable” when you simply stopped masking.

And the most dangerous part?
They deliver these lies with the calm confidence of someone who knows the system will believe them.

ADHD Makes You the Perfect Target — Not Because You’re Weak, But Because You’re Honest

People with ADHD tend to:

• communicate directly
• assume others are being truthful
• take words at face value
• remember events in vivid detail
• expect fairness
• struggle with masking under stress

These traits make you a threat to someone who thrives on manipulation.
You don’t play the political game.
You don’t flatter.
You don’t pretend.
You don’t lie.

So they lie first.

When HR Believes the Lie

This is where the harm deepens.
Instead of investigating, HR often accepts the manager’s version as fact.
Not because it’s true — but because it’s easier.

HR rarely understands ADHD communication styles.
They rarely recognize neurodivergent burnout.
They rarely question a manager’s “concerns.”

So the lie becomes policy.
The lie becomes documentation.
The lie becomes your reputation.

And you’re left holding the emotional weight of a story that was never yours.

The Emotional Fallout of Being Lied About

Being misrepresented hits differently when you’ve spent your whole life trying to be understood.
It’s not just professional harm — it’s personal.
It’s spiritual.
It’s destabilizing.

You start questioning your memory.
Your tone.
Your intentions.
Your worth.

But the truth is simple:
You didn’t imagine it.
You didn’t misremember it.
You didn’t cause it.
She lied.

Why They Lie

Not because you were wrong.
Not because you were difficult.
Not because you were unprofessional.

They lied because:

• you saw too much
• you asked the right questions
• you didn’t shrink
• you didn’t play along
• you didn’t let them control the narrative

Your ADHD didn’t make you a problem.
It made you impossible to manipulate — so they tried to manipulate the story instead.

Reclaiming Your Voice After the Lie

This is the part they never expect:
You survive it.
You learn from it.
You name it.
You write about it.
You build community around it.
You turn the lie into liberation.

Your voice becomes louder.
Your boundaries become stronger.
Your discernment becomes sharper.
Your story becomes a tool for someone else’s healing.

Because the truth always outlives the lie.

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If this hit your spirit, share it with a sister who’s still healing from a workplace that tried to rewrite her story.
Your voice matters. Your truth matters.
And you’re not alone.

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